After seven years we're back in the thick of it again. We're one of the lucky under 1% where the pill didn't work haha. Anyways the point I was getting to is how much I forgot living on a three hour baby sleep cycle, waking up in the rocking chair, not even making it to bed, just getting through however we can. But this past two weeks my wife did all the heavy lifting with the baby because I was working 12 days in a row. I basically slept alone in our bed for two weeks, and still was exhausted. I finally get today off. Last night my wife got a well deserved sleep in our bed and I had bubs almost all night in the lounge room chair. Yeah, I'm tired, but I didn't realise I missed that time with him so much.

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I'm a mom to 7 kids (+ 2 bonus/step kids), the oldest being 19, and something about the refreshing warmth of your writing led me to finally become a paid subscriber. Even those of us parents who truly know we are doing our best and to let the small (and big) shit go can always use a little more empathy and encouragement on any given day. Your writing always makes me smile. :)

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The tweet in the first footnote is most definitely what we Twitter connoisseurs call a shitpost (i.e. definitely not serious)

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Some of my best memories are of the times I spent with my daughter, exhausted at three in the morning, helping her through colics, which arguably are 95% diet related. The only issue was--it wasn’t my acid-charged, scream-filled milk that was feeding my daughter stomach pains. My wife at the time asked for Oaxaca cheese at 10 o’clock at night because of you know, cravings.

But here’s what I can tell you. I’ll never take back the feeling of joy watching my daughter’s eyes get heavy, finally falling asleep. The way she saw me as the last face, knowing she was protected, that I was there for her throughout the night. This I’d argue was exactly what the both of us needed.

And no one can take this bond away.

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Such opinions are just shared for the purpose of causing controversy, I find. My personal experience is that it’s indeed to easy to make mistakes when working on establishing a sleep routine for your child, but claiming that it’s almost entirely the parents’ fault is incredibly one sided. We have struggled a lot with our son’s sleep, and in such situations what you need is empathy, not a taking head sharing one sentence wisdom.

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Querido Kevin: todos sabemos que las redes sociales son en algún punto extremadamente dañinas con muchas situaciones, pero aquí rodean la paternidad y la maternidad. Si eres una persona que estas criando de acuerdo a tus convicciones, y rara vez necesites verificar tu accionar en internet, genial!!!! No significa que no se necesite ayuda porque el período de crianza se caracteriza por el sentimiento de ambivalencia y también culpa. Por otro lado, hay personas muy vulnerables a estos dichos que enfatizan la culpa y caen en depresión confirmando que son "malos padres".

Estoy de acuerdo contigo que debemos tomar con precaución lo que se dice. Tengo algunas hipótesis acerca del dicho: seguramente lo ha ido mal en su crianza y estamos ante un "hater" o bien no sabe nada de nada de niños pequeños. Se espera que un niño de tres meses duerma inestable, entendido desde la visión de un adulto y que además se esta amamantando. La otra hipótesis es ha querido ser gracioso pero con estos temas y ya la sociedad no lo soporta más.

La salud mental perinatal es cosa de todos y debemos cuidarla.

Los "buenos" y "malos" padres no existen, pero siempre el contexto histórico en el que se vive marca o dicta cómo debemos criar. Consejo: asegurarse de rodearse de personas que se funcionalizen como

buenas ayudas para la tarea de crianza, si se tiene dudas consultar con psicología perinatal.

Agradezco Kevin que pongas sobre la mesa tantos temas para pensarnos como padres, eso conforma cierta fraternidad en ello, y como dice el proverbio africano, "se necesita una tribu para criar un niño".

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