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Lynn Harris Clark's avatar

Love this. So well observed. A big thank you for putting it in writing. We mom’s love our kids and want to invest in the work, but we also love and respect ourselves, so having the invisible time noted (and ideally shared) by the partner is essential for our sense of well being. Cooperative family is also good role modelling for the kids!

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Dan's avatar

Awesome read Kev, really holds true and exposes the real complexities as you un pick the themes. Most of these immediately resonated. The biggest challenge i've had to wrestle with is living with someone who is a natural planner. I'm a reactionist, which is my natural and default personality. The way this tends to play out is that I'm great at dealing with situations as they emerge and cope well with whatever shit (sometimes literally) is thrown. But equally useless in thinking about anything that might effect us all in 3 months time (or even the end of the week). Finding a balance requires recognising your individual strengths and weaknesses and then re-combining them as a couple. Become 1 combined super parent rather than 2 weaker and stressed out ones.

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