Brilliant piece. That insight about how modern dads have agency where previous geenrations didn't really reframes the whole conversation. Its not just balance anymore but active choice. I remmber my dad constantly traveling for work and now I'm choosing differently, but sometimes feel guilty tbh. The tension still matters cause we're wrestling with those identity questions even when economics shift.
I was thinking about this theme in popular culture too! I totally saw it too this year. I would even add One Battle After Another (Leo’s character as a dad to Willa trying to find her and protect her from villains created by her dad’s activism, and Jay Kelly (where George Clooney tries to repair a fraught relationship with his children after amassing mega fame) to this review. And In our house we fall into that minority group where my wife is the primary breadwinner.
Brilliant piece. That insight about how modern dads have agency where previous geenrations didn't really reframes the whole conversation. Its not just balance anymore but active choice. I remmber my dad constantly traveling for work and now I'm choosing differently, but sometimes feel guilty tbh. The tension still matters cause we're wrestling with those identity questions even when economics shift.
Yeah the inherited guilt of “am I doing enough” can hit hard
We watched Train Dreams the other night and it sticks with you. Great review.
I was thinking about this theme in popular culture too! I totally saw it too this year. I would even add One Battle After Another (Leo’s character as a dad to Willa trying to find her and protect her from villains created by her dad’s activism, and Jay Kelly (where George Clooney tries to repair a fraught relationship with his children after amassing mega fame) to this review. And In our house we fall into that minority group where my wife is the primary breadwinner.
Still thinking about the line “Can I go again? I’d like another.”
Wrecked me 😭
Leo for sure! Heard good things about Jay Kelly, will check it out. I think it’s on Netflix too?
Yep!
https://open.substack.com/pub/wearethebreadwinners/p/we-revolutionized-motherhood-but?r=6z5r6b&utm_medium=ios&shareImageVariant=overlay
I just wrote a similar piece on this topic!