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Open Thread: Seeking Guidance
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Open Thread: Seeking Guidance

Kevin Maguire
Apr 15
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I’ve been on the hunt for advice this week—seeking it out, staying open to what the world might be trying to tell me—while attempting to unlock creative roadblocks in work, with TNF, and elsewhere.

Wanted to share four creators and resources I’ve been finding useful over the week:

  • Ali Abdall’s YouTube Channel. Ali is a former doctor and now professional YouTuber. I’ve found a lot of actionable insight from his videos as I try to be more intentional about where I put my focus at work and on this newsletter. He touches on productivity, book recommendations for personal growth, investment advice and more. Ignore the clickbait titles, stay for the solid advice.

  • Austin Kleon’s newsletter and his books. In particular, I’ve been going deep on everything linked in a recent issue on how to interview better. Last week I spoke to Daniel Pink about his new book The Power of Regret, and what parents might learn by being more in touch with their regrets. I have quickly realised interviewing is a skill I need to work on, especially as I plan a more regular cadence of chats with interesting dads.

  • This recent Oliver Burkeman essay on “leaning into the cringe” which had totally changed how I’m reading two books recently put on my radar. I was feeling a little uncomfortable with some of the words and topics in both, and Burkeman’s essay helped me move past that mental blockade.

  • Yung Pueblo’s books and his newsletter. I just finished Clarity & Connection (his second), and my copy is covered in index tabs and scribbled marginalia. A perfect combination to a regular mindfulness and meditation habit.

Vinyl records, model’s own.

Two other big sources of guidance for me:

  1. The folks who read this newsletter, comment on these threads, and join the weekly TNF summits. I had the opportunity to talk with half a dozen of you on Tuesday and it dismantled a gargantuan mental obstruction on an upcoming series of essays. And we had a lot of fun on the way. Like a friend told me this week, getting over a bout of creative block is like unclogging an old tap—a load of dark, useless gunk comes out first, but when the water starts running clear, it’s a delight.

  2. Those folks in my life known to me, but probably not to you: friends, co-conspirators, and confidants who I’ve spent the last 48 hours talking to and learning from. Thank you for sharing your time and expertise with me this week, and always.

Enough about me. What writers, podcasters, YouTubers, or other creators do you find yourself looking to for advice and guidance? What kinds of things are they helping you with? Any books that you keep coming back to when you get stuck? Or people in your life who are go-to for helping you figure things out?

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FatherofZoomers
Writes FatherofZoomers’s Newsletter ·Apr 21Liked by Kevin Maguire

I have been married 20 years, and have seven children. In 2020 we left Philadelphia ( but will return ) to build an off grid homestead ( a disaster) but I’ve learned a lot about marriage and fatherhood. I just started my own blog/ newsletter , “ FatherofZoomers “ to share what I’ve learned from the pain... cause there has been much pain...but much joy also... please check it out guys and give feedback!!!!

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James Bernardo
Apr 19Liked by Kevin Maguire

Some recent favourites that have helped unblock my creative chakras and get inspired about life:

Beau Miles - outdoorsman and backyard adventurer - each and every one of his short films is a world of life lessons on being a top bloke

Van Neistat - his Baja series of videos made me think a lot about life, journeys and investing more time in my friendships

Matt D'Avella - the (i think) OG of the style Ali and all other productivity nerds now use on Youtube - minimalism etc

Billy Yang - life affirming trail running stuff

Kraig Adams - beautifully shot silent hiking videos that give you time to think (and are perfect for those late night/early mornings soothing a baby)

Channel 5 News with Andrew Callaghan - exposing the sobering reality of American society in 2022

Adam Neeley - king of the music theory nerds on youtube

Johhny Harris - the VOX Borders don and boss of the explainer videos

Rick Darge - absurdist magic to reset your creative chakras

Book Wise the below have all given me pause for thought whilst navigating the first 16 months of my daughters life in "dynamic zero" Hong Kong.

A Year with Swollen Appendices - Brian Enos Diary

The Unreality of Memory And Other Eassays - Elisa Gabbert

A Heartbreaking Work of Staggering Genius - Dave Eggers

The Impossible City - Karen Cheung

Herzog on Herzog - Werner Herzog

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